- suffered years of abuse
Unthinkable, bizarre and unforgiveable are only a few of the words which observers used yesterday to describe the manner in which a 55-year-old mother of four met her demise on Sunday night, after suffering years of domestic abuse at the hands of one of her children.
Ramattie Deonauth
Dead is Ramattie Deonauth, of Lot 41 Croal Street, Enterprise, East Coast Demerara, who according to the police, was discovered motionless in her bed around 5 am yesterday.
Speaking at his mother’s home last evening, Davendra Deonauth told this newspaper that his mother had been suffering years of abuse at the hands of his elder brother He said his mother did domestic work around the village to support her family, adding that his father is paralysed from the waist down and is confined to his bed.
His father, Siew Deonauth, told this newspaper last evening that his son often took advantage of his ailment and would beat him and his wife whenever he went home under the influence of alcohol.
Darshanie (only name given), a family friend who lived with the deceased, recounting the events leading to her friend’s death, stated that the woman’s son had been drinking during the day on Sunday at a nearby “wedding house”. She said he returned home around 3 pm and asked his mother for his food. The woman said Deonauth told her son that she had not prepared any food for him since there was nothing in the kitchen to cook.
Darshanie said that the man then started to assault his mother, which she noted was a normal occurrence, kicking and cuffing her about her body in the process. She said he also turned his attention to his father but following the intervention of neighbours, he left the house.
The woman’s husband stated that his son returned home around 8:30 pm and continued to physically assault his mother, demanding that she prepare his dinner. He said his son hit him several times about his body after he reprimanded him for hitting his mother. The widower related that his son then pulled the woman into her bedroom and after bolting the door, he mercilessly beat her about her body. He said the loud music being played at a nearby house drowned out his voice as he tried to call out to neighbours for assistance.
During this time, Darshanie related, she was hiding under the victim’s bed as the man trampled on his mother, even as the hapless woman cried out for help.
She said he tore her clothes off her body in the process, while slamming her head on whatever surface he could find, screaming several expletives as he brutalised her. She said that after about an hour, he left the house, leaving his motionless mother on the floor.
Davendra told this newspaper that around 5.30 am yesterday his elder brother went over to his Enterprise Gardens home and in tears informed him that his mother was dead.
He said he immediately went over to his mother’s home where his worst fears were confirmed.
The man said that his brother slept in another room while his father slept outside on the floor. He opined that his brother may only have realised what he had done when he woke up yesterday morning. He said his parents were very poor and his brother, who should have been providing for them, “only keep beating them when he want he own way.” He said his brother, who lived with their parents all his life, would physically abuse his mother whenever he went home from the cane fields, where he works as a cane cutter, and found no food on the table. He said he and his sister made reports to the Vigilance Police Station on a number of occasions on his brother’s treatment towards their mother but she would plead with the police to release him since she would often say that he was her son.
The woman’s relatives told Stabroek News that the man tried to persuade his father several times yesterday morning not to tell anyone what transpired. They said that he also tried to escape from the village but was stopped by his relatives.
According to the police, the suspect is in police custody assisting with investigations.
Recently, there has been an increase in the number of women who met their demise after suffering years of abuse. However, in those cases the victims suffered at the hands of their partners.
Why these people does behave in this manner????? If they aren’t hanging themselves, drinking up all de rum, killing their wives and children then is something wired they are doing.
I am of the view that relevant authorities should set up clinics country to educate the population about domestic abuse and its effects. Those who are going through this epidemic on a daily basis should get help before it’s too late.
SandMan:-
WORD
SOUND
POWA
Time to open the eyes of the blind Guyanese especially of Indo persuasion.
It is what happens to the oppressors and their seed.
“Keep it “LIT”
dat is d Pinnacle fyahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhkey
Well said , Sandhurst . The violence and senseless murders continue , unabated ; when will it end ?? what is very difficult to comprehend is the in-action of the PPP administration who seems to know more about what is taking place in Barbados than what is happening in Guyana . It is as if the guyanese have given up and are now living in a state of hopelessness .
Sandhurst , you have given the government good advice but will they adhere to it ?? I don’t think that they will .
“Why these people does behave in this manner????? If they aren’t hanging themselves, drinking up all de rum…”
Time for Prohibition. The govt has to ban alcohol. Rum is the vehicle of most of these domestic abuses/murders. Rum has no benefits to an individual nor society. It is a depressant which only exacerbates dispair. When combined with other forms of depression (given the current state of our socio-economic crisis) it becomes a deadly cocktail.
Wiggins you are right. The PPP has no interest in helping Guyana or its citizens because they are trying to export all its people and problems to other countries. Every country has its problems but each day there seems to be more and more violence in Guyana. Everything starts with education, not only academic, but social skills and it is a Government’s responsibility to ensure that its citizens are taught these things.
Sandman when you refer to these people seems like you refer to a specific race but for you and C information there is domestic and other abuses among all the races in Guyana and to my estimate it is higher among the Afro Guyanese population.
This is the main reason why free movement of people is not happening in the Caribbean. People are terrified that this type of behavior will be exported with the people.
WIGGINS::
http://barbadosfreepress.wordpress.com/category/politics-corruption/
WIGGINS:
http://britishexpats.com/forum/showthread.php?t=552288
WIGGINS:::TELL YOUR PRIME MINISTA HOW E INEPT.
Seamstress, here you go again politicising a family tragedy…,other media reorts that this loser is a drug abuser…so let’s not keep anything lit, stay safe and try to avoid the gang warfare in beautiful Jamaica.
I expect to see crocodile tears from the Jagdeo regime in the lead person of his human services minister and the other females. “Nothing in the kitchen to cook”….wake up Indians, it is not only Blacks whose pots are empty, yours also, but you are drunk with the rum from the PPP cup. You have to bring this nonsense to an end and get those at freedom house and their familes and friends who live off of your fears and miseries to become accountable for your votes.
Well as the artical reports years & years of abuse on a big woman. So many of her friends & relatives can give an account of the abuse may this lady RIP. BUT the blood is on the hands of those in the know who sat by and SB turn up to report you cant shut them with what they know.
I aint starting any argument this seems to happen in the same parts of society all the time. dem like power cant even compare dem to animals .
I respect my mother so much its only when read articles like this you realize how uncivilized people are still in this planet. cave man could but these rum jumbies cant learn. some stiff sentence is needed here
Wiggins, the reason jagdeo is fighting up with the Bdos government is to export his dissidents. Export the Indians to Bdos for a good living and for them to send money back to their poor relatives and get them to come back to Guyana to vote at election time. From that point of view, Thompson is correct to send back undocument illegal Guyanese residing in Bdos. Let them not get a way out of their misery under the PPP, but forced to change their attitudes and call on the government of their choice to be accountable.
Don’t forget to mention the Crack heads and junkies that will jump fences and/or kill to get a little smoke, smoke. Go through some areas in Guyana and you’ll see how some people living; not a blade of grass turning, but at the end of the day
they have that thing to smoke. Perhaps the Gov’t should set up rehabilitation centers for these people too because they othen disregard life and robb or kill to get money to satisfy their crave.
E Whatever!Your comments do not make any sense at all. If you are a Guyanese,then i think you chose the right country to migrate to.
Its only fair that this comment gets posted!!
I’m not surpries that Stabroek New would publish comments that catagorize people as “these people, drink rum, kill wives, indo peruasion.
What about those people who don’t have anything to give to child mother or children, needless to say they care for them; who sit around all day thinking who to robb or kill next for their hard earned posessions. What about those people? Arn’t they the one that have almost every house in Guyana grilled like cages?
Evan Thomas::burnham was best at doin what you said::::
COLLIEMAN:::sandman and wiggins are one of a kind:::read into their blogs very carefully and you will always say what you said about sandman and wiggins::birds of feather they are::
NotFromGT::who is “these people”
By no means do I intend or having any intentions of categorizing “these people” to any particular race. I simple mean those people who are abusive!!!
The love I have for my mother and women in general is immeasurable and no way or NO DAY would I ever think about throwing my hands at my mother EVER!!!!! ‘
My mother been through RUFF WATERS with us, sometimes she starved herself to make sure we had something to eat and boy not even if i was mad would I ever think of hitting or cursing her…she is the love of my life and the only woman I would do anything for….girls come and go but my mother will be there all the time for me and my sisters.
In saying this I condemn any man that hits much less kill his mother, wife, sister, grand mother, aunt or any woman that God created.
June 28, 2004 Clement Jonas speared to death by his mentally unstable son.
December 7, 2004 Frank Carrington killed by hammer blow to head by his son.
January 28, 2005 Mansa Singh beaten to death by his son.
July 2, 2008 Sunalall Ruplal died in hospital after being struck in the head by his son two days before.
November 27, 2008 Stanislaus Gomes chopped and decapitated by his son.
July 20, 2009 Ramrattie Deonauth beaten to death by her son.
Source: SN
“Woman beaten to death by son” – an aberration in any culture. In Indian films a mother is often venerated; the relationship between mother and son(even more than mother and daughter)is treated as something sacred and special it often reflects real life. This man had to be insane to do such a thing.
Here is some advice from a Bajan woman to Guyanese women who want to escape the torment of Guyanese life.
Get a college degree or some sort of skills training before you even think about getting serious with a man or having children.
Get a job that pays enough for you to support yourself and any children you may have without assistance from a man in the event you get a man who is worthless.
Purchase your own home and car. Don’t allow a man to live in a home you purchased with your own money. If you choose to live in a man’s home, make sure you have money to support yourself if you have to flee.
If you get married and have children, train the man and the children, including your sons, to do household chores and how to cook for themselves. Don’t encourage them to expect you to spend too much time attending to them. My father is an excellent cook and did much of the cooking in our home when I was a child, so I know from experience this can be done.
Don’t allow grown children or a man to live with you if they don’t contribute financially to the upkeep of the home, if they drink heavily, use drugs, or abuse you in any way.
Don’t go to foreign countries and give women in the countries advice on how to treat men nice when you know women in your homeland are suffering and dying because of their tendency to focus on taking care of men instead of doing things to elevate themselves. If the women in the foreign country you land in are living better than you are, you should take their advice.
Sandhurst you have tabled this with some respectfull and heart felt comments well done.
La Dorada never a truer word the relationship between mother and son is treated as something sacred and special.
Everybody has felt this act of cruel and wickedness.
education and inclusion for all is so important the thing that gets me with this is everybody knows this man was beating on his mother. we all know that the way news travel on the street police and a lot people must have been aware of this man.
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“These People” was a direct quote from the blogger I was replying to. I too am tired of of people referring to Indians as ‘these people’. I will kick myself later for repeating it.
every body knows the abuse but never called the cops, shame on them. they should shut their mouths now and never say a word or cry a drop of tears because they are to blame.
wiggins you sound very ignorant what does a political party have to do with this murder. why not blame peter d,aduiar and banks dih ltd.ever heard of bush rum.
Man must go to the market and buy food. Man must know to cook. Man must know to dish out food/dig out dem eat. Man must not beat/kill his mother/wife for man’s failure. Neighbours must not play loud music.
Come on YCLF, as your days become shorter, so does your ability to articulate comments about issues that affect the social fabric of Guyanese life. Sandman seems to think that the problem of domestic abuse is regimented to a certain segment(racial)of society, you on the other hand blame only men. Elaborate on your views and provide soloutions. Anything else will fall short, educator. ISNM
ulric why don’t you talk the same way how you do on guyanobserver, on sn you are a saint, but elsewhere you are rabid, i will be monitoring you.
The death penalty for the killer is the only option, Ulric; however Hackett cannot bring himself to agree this even in the case of this ANIMALISTIC MURDER.
Teacher Hackett; spare the rod… spoil the child.
Ulric::show us the percentage of where women does this sick thing to men then we gon believe yuh….elobarate…….
Woman superior to man (Ashley Montagu). Capital punishment and corporal punishment no good, no deterrence, not work, only punishment. Texas use both. Crime still plenty there.
He is definitly not human,what ever happen to mother’s love.Cant think of a punishment for him.
ANGRY
I am so angry reading this article. First of all Guyana government needs to have counseling for battered women in all parts of the country. The women needs to take advantage of the services the country has to offer. The women needs to let go of their children once they are grown. They need to go with the flow regarding their grown ass children. The navel string was cut from birth but most Guyanese women loves their son and will die by the hands of those very sons. Women needs to have a defensive group where they can meet and plan how to protect themselves even if it means vicious thoughts and acts. The laws of Guyana needs to be changed. Why is it the government do not bring back CAPITAL PUNISHMENT? These men needs to make an example.
Pissed
Seeta
MOTHER’S LOVE
This one has really got me off balance because I am a mother of three, my youngest is a boy of 25yrs, very spoiled his sisters me and even his father,he has never BACK-CHATTED me no matter how much I would fret and go on. My children, son-in-law and I engage in heafty discussions over life in general..I think that is very important in child/parent (family) relationship.This MOTHER’S LOVE has caused her her LIFE….Makes me remember my mother and gran-mothers saying”CAN A MOTHER TENDER CARE CEASE TOWARDS THE CHILD SHE BEAR” and”KILL MUMA AN GEE PICKNEE FU EAT DEM GU EAT SH but KILL PICKNEE an GEE MUMA FU EAT SH NA GU EAT AM”
Seeta you mentioned that Guyanese women must let go of their sons if the sons do not want to let go of their mothers what do we do? My eldest brother lived very far from us and he made it his duty to visit my mother every evening after work,when he started living at our back yard it was him,bhougy,picknee an all every single day. when he got sick he moved to his mother’s home and died in her arms. I also have a younger brother, once he is in the country he has to see his mother before he sleeps.My son-in-law also goes to his mother every day after work and wait until its nearly time for his wife to arrive home.He also have an arrangement with his wife that she can have dinner with me while he have it at his mother’s.So what can we say over this unfortunate situation in Guyana.
Just imagine my son is free today and he did the evening shift last night, I am here behind the key-board and he has already emptied the dish washer, has made himself something to eat and has gone back to his room,I think I have heard the vaccume….My children are no angels but they know how far they can go and that has to begin from small.CAN’T WAIT UNTIL THE HORSE GETS OUT OF THE STABLE, THEN CLOSE THE GATE…THE TWIG ALSO HAS TO BE BENT WHILE ITS YOUNG…and there is something that is called HARD LOVE that has to be applied no matter how difficult it is for the parent…Don’t SPARE THE WROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD….otherwise no amount of MOTHER’S LOVR is going to help…MOTHERS ARE NOT SLAVES…MOTHERS ALSO HAVE A LIFE. I wonder what the two other childern were doing all these years? how could they allow this RUM-SUCKING,JUNKIE to abuse their poor parent. I am 59yrs and my son knows that i will not go into verbal clashes with my children but I can STRIKE.NO COOKING NO CLEANING and if he pushes me he knows that I am good enough to move out and let him pay all the bills. let the govt. cut off the water and electricity.Abused women MUST APPLY HARD LOVE.
This is sickening, despicable, i can’t believe this was happening and non of her other children did anything, if that was my mother being abused by one of my brother we would be fighting regardless if he’s older i wouldn’t have stood around while it happened, and it sad when she plead with the police to let him go because it was her son, and now she died at the hand of her son, it boggles the mind to know that her son treated her like that, my condolences goes out to the rest of the family, and i hope the police do their job and prosecute this man to the fullest of the law.
These behavours are being encouraged by the law officials.Giving some one a chance once or twice(depends on the crime) can be overlooked. The police should not listen to any BEGGING,just take these criminals and put them to plant food for the needy and them selves.If they were put away to do something consteuctive there would have been less crime in guyana.It seems as if the COMMONSENSE that we are suppose to be born with has reached the EXTREME from COMMON to LAWLESS.lAWLESSNESS to the HIGHEST EXTENT in Guyana.
Unbelievable – very sad. Can’t imagine beating my mother for food. What is that all about? I am wondering what kind of Indian wedding was that? What happened to the 7 curry at the wedding house?
Women should teach their boys to cook. I have a son who is 8 – his mom encourages him to mix his brownies (mixture) when she bakes. For this summer he promised her that he will do the dishes. So far he has done it several times. But it’s a beginning to share house duties and also a way for him to learn to be independent – especially in college/university or in an unexpected circumstances.
Macushi, as a boy growing up in Guyana, Afro-Guyanese boys were introduced to chores done in the home,Indo-Guyanese boys were quite often not. Afro-Guyanese boys were cub scouts and boys scouts and learned skills of cooking. More often than not Afro-Guyanese boys left their parental homes in their twenties while Indo-Guyanes continue to live with their parents even after having families of their own. I have an Indo-Guyanese friend, whose twenty eight years and twenty six years old sons currently reside with he and his wife. Is it a good thing? I don’t know. But we have witnessed very negative results (abuse of all kinds) from this kind of arrangement. This story is point in fact. ISNM
Seems a lot of the comments of the sad demise of this lady are bordering on racial stereotypes..when I was growing up in Guyana most of the crimes of robbery & kick door bandits were carried by Afro Gouanese men and still is! But I would not infer that the Afro population are brought up to be criminals..so please be careful with your comments as every section of the population has the capacity to do dreadful things..
Guyana, made up of it’s people and not just of it’s land, is getting sicker everyday. I thank God everyday for the decision my parents made to seek a future in a different country.
Folks, this is what Guyana has turn to. I was very sad reading this article, no money, husband paralysed and son abusing his mother for years. Anyone who assaulted their parents should be put to death. Guyanese men have zero respect for women and this has to change now.
frog, you’re always welcome to jump in with your opinion. But when you say “Guyanese men have zero respect for women…” you definitely cross the line. As you can see from the other comments on this report, most Guyanese men respect women, especially their mothers.
of course I meant some Guyanese men
HANG HIM IF GUILTY. HER RELATIVES SHOULD FEEL GUILTY!
You have got to be kidding! “if guilty”? Hang him period. Nobody hits their mother and gets away with it in my books!
He should be shown no mercy by the court system if guilty. How can you leave a wedding party to assault your mother for food? There is always food at weddings.
Food wasn’t on his mind, free booze was.
Wedding House always have rum and food.He beat his Mother because he has no respect for her.It sounds like he is a bully.
don’t worry, his day will come.
O tolerance he should be hang if guilty.
It’s very sad article.