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Son disturbed at conditions under which mother found

The news of his mother being found has not brought relief to Sylvester Medor who recently came to Guyana in search of her, but was forced to leave with no clue as to where she was; now, he says, he is unable to sleep.

Police removed Noelina Prospere-Medor from a small room aback of a house at Craig, East Bank Demerara on Saturday last.
Speaking with this newspaper from his London home yesterday, Medor said he has not slept since hearing that his mother had been found and was uncertain what would prompt those responsible for housing the woman to have her living under such conditions.

The room in the small and dirty apartment at Craig, East Bank Demerara, where Noelina Prospere-Medor was found.

However, Medor said he could not return here until another two months since he will shortly undergo a medical surgery. “I can’t believe it and since I’ve heard her voice it’s like I can’t sleep properly, but I have to come back and ensure that she is in a proper home and well taken care of,” the man told Stabroek News yesterday.
The man said that when his mother was found, he received a telephone call from a woman he still does not know, then allowed to speak with his mother. According to him, his mother’s voice did not sound as strong as when he last spoke to her. He said up to yesterday he was trying to contact social services for some form of assistance in housing the woman until he could return here. He said, he got no replies from several telephone calls, but added that he would continue to try since he has learnt that his mother would be held at the Georgetown Public Hospital, as there was no one to release her to.

Yesterday the woman remained at the Accident and Emergency Unit and she was resting comfortably.
Asked whether he had any information whatsoever regarding the Craig house, Medor said no, neither was he aware of who was taking care of his mother while she was there. He said a woman who identified herself as “Simone Henry” spoke with him on Saturday and said she had been looking after his mother at Craig.

Medor said he was hesitant to enter into any agreement with Henry when he spoke to her since he had no idea who she was. “I need to come back but I go into surgery next week and it will be a while before I could move. But I hope I could get social services to help me and then I will come and place her in a home and pay for her to stay,” he said.
Meanwhile, Medor said he still could not believe that the woman, who along with her husband, last took care of his mother had denied knowing where she was.

The woman had also told Stabroek News that she had no idea where Prospere-Medor was and said the last thing she knew was that her estranged husband had removed her from the home when the two of them separated.

She had also accused Medor’s son of having motives other than love for his mother in wanting to find her. She felt he was more interested in a piece of property Prospere-Medor owns at Albouys-town Georgetown and for which she had made her husband, power of attorney.

The caretaker
Meanwhile, Prospere-Medor’s caretaker at the unkempt Craig room said both the initial caretakers knew of the old woman’s whereabouts and had hired her to care for her. She claimed that they both visited the place on numerous occasions. This was also the position of another woman who lives in the same Craig compound.
On Sunday, this newspaper visited the Craig location and observed that except for a small pair of windows there was no other form of light being provided to the filthy room.
The caretaker told Stabroek News that some time at the end of June she was approached by the man who asked her to rent him the room at the back of the building. “I rented the place to him and he moved in here with the old woman. I read in the newspaper that his wife said she don’t know anything about the old woman… She is lying. She knew about the old woman,” the woman said. She claimed that after he moved in with the old woman, his wife visited regularly and even spent nights there. However, she said, whenever the husband went to the interior where he works the wife would also leave and Prospere-Medor would be left alone except for short daily visits by the wife.

“I told [the husband] a number of times that he can’t leave this woman in here alone like that. I know when a person sickly like that they need someone with them 24/7,” the woman said.

Lived alone
She said when she was approached by the man who asked for assistance in taking care of Prospere-Medor, she initially hesitated.
“He spoke to my fiancée and I didn’t really want to take the job but my fiancée tell me to take it. He told my fiancée was his mother and that he wanted someone to take care of her when he went away,” the woman said. She said the man told her he would have paid her $40,000, but while he gave her money thrice after hiring her, the amounts did not total $40,000.

According to her, at one time, the man fed Prospere-Medor fruits only, but she advised him that this was not enough. She revealed too that along with the small bed Prospere-Medor slept on, the room also had a hammock, a wardrobe, a trunk and a makeshift bench.

The woman said when she started to voice her concerns about the condition of the place and how unsuitable it was, the man sent his wife to inform her that her services were no longer needed. “I was very upset because when he was in trouble he come he self and when he want to fire me he send she,” the woman said.
She was the one who called the police and the media after she was informed by her cousin that Prospere-Medor’s son was looking for her.

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47 Responses to “Son disturbed at conditions under which mother found”

Gerry
on October 7th, 2008 6:15 am

CONGRATS SIMONE HENRY.IT IS GOOD TO KNOW THAT THERE ARE STILL DECENT PEOPLE LIVING IN GUYANA.
THAT SON IS WICKED TOO.HOW CAN YOU NOT CONTACT YOUR MOTHER FOR 40 YEARS.MAYBE HE CAME TO LOOK FOR HER AS HE FELT GOD WOULD NOT ALLOW HIM TO MALE IT SAFELY THROUGH THE OPERATION.
MAY GOD BLESSS YOU SIMONE FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING.

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shyboilex
In reply to the above comment on October 7th, 2008 12:09 pm:
What is good about SIMONE HENRY. She is as heartless and the others. me folowering this store as it goes along the more i read the more it haunt me and bring tears to my eyes .

And it bring back memories of me being a small boy growing up in Guyana and seeing my mother taking care of my elderly neighbour who grown kids live in the same house with them and never even look upon them it really hurts .

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radha medor
In reply to the above comment on October 8th, 2008 7:42 am:
KEEP YOUR NASTY OPINIONS TO YOURSELF. NONE OF YOU KNOW THE FULL STORY. YOU ONLY KNOW WHAT THE MEDIA PRINT IN THE NEWSPAPERS. MY DAD WILL GET MY GRANDMOTHER AFTER HIS OPERATION. YOU ARE ALL TO QUICK TO TALK OTHER PEOPLES BUSINESS. HAVE YOU EVER ASKED YOURSELVES WHY HE HASN’T SEEN HER FOR SO LONG?
NARROW MINDED.

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Cheryl
on October 7th, 2008 7:27 am

It’s a shame, woman, u knew where this beautiful soul was, and only called and reported her where abouts because of fear, u knew that this soul was living in a deplorable state, without proper meals, medical services, contact with other humans, which helps the elderly. Because he was not paying u as he should, u left and never contacted anyone concerning her condition, u also was taking care of her in a small room, no sunlight, walks, friends, what kind of person are you.

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On the look out
on October 7th, 2008 7:45 am

Mr. Mendor sounds like a man who likes to make excuses. All the time he crying foul for the authorities to help him find his ma and now when they do he saying that he cant go to guyana because of his plan to take an operation. If she was dead now, what would have been his response. Mr. Mendor needs to stop his excuses and pack himself and go back to look after his mother’s interest. He has more to cry about. He better keep thanking God that the poor old woman is alive and step up and do what he needs to do. Look after her. Stop being so selfish

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realgirl_tessa
In reply to the above comment on October 7th, 2008 9:43 am:
You are being unfair to Mr. Mentor, if the man has a medical condition that needs to be adressed he has to take care of it. He didn’t say he’s be back in 1 yr he said 2 months. Given he fact that he has to travel from London which isnt too cheap these days.

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On the look out
In reply to the above comment on October 7th, 2008 4:08 pm:
I am not the one being unfair to Mr. Mendor. The only unfair persons in this scenario are the ones involved and that includes Mr. Mendor. If he cant travel back to see her well then he can put system in place to get her to go to him. I am sure he knows that or he can contact an airline and make the necessary arrangement instead of making an excuse. It is his mother he is talking about here whom he has not seen for 40 years. Money cant pay for doing the right things for your mother. I think there is an ulterior motive behind this. 40 years and never CHECKED. No way. Something not straight here. But God is the judge and he will render judgement in his own time.

Faceboy
In reply to the above comment on October 7th, 2008 9:38 pm:
My dear friend, I had to agree with you on this headline. You have struck the nail on it’s head. In my opinion he did his best. We don’t know his cercumstances and the conditions under which he live and work, these factors when taken into consideration can have both a negative or positive effect on an individual. What if he wasn’t doing well before?{productive} but now things are going his way ,hence, giving him the opportunity to do good and make up for the pass. When you look at our hands, all of our fingers are not equal. Some of us came abroad and get a fast start to a new life while others get off on a slow start, bottom line, we’ll all get there, which in his case he did beside, he just returned to London where it’s not cheap to travel from. Equeally important too is the fact that he’s scheduled for an emergency surgary. With out him there is nothing he could do to help her so, self preservation first then his mother second. Remember now!, he’s going to return in two to three months time. Plz: note; ‘he was sending money to take care of her{his mother} while in London’. That right there tells me that he was and is thinking of her. Good luck to you Sir. Mendor.

opgy
In reply to the above comment on October 7th, 2008 10:37 am:
Mustn’t judge a book by its cover. You have no idea what sort of operation it is. Could be to remove cancer or any other life threatening disease.

SSDD

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good guy
In reply to the above comment on October 7th, 2008 3:15 pm:
Common guys -Mendor is making excuses — You dont have to come to get her –just pay for her ticket and courier services (from the airlines ) and they will be happy to escort all the way to London . God forbids —if you have complications after your surgery –then your poor mom is stuck in Guyana and have to endure more suffering .
true guyanese
on October 7th, 2008 8:38 am

poor old lady was suffering at the hands of these cruel people who i think was trying to get rich off of her……….and now all the excuses…………..her son who claims that he was looking for her now saying he has to do surgery to do is it so critical that you can’t cancell for later and try to take care of your mother….i guess he is a faker….your mother comes first……if i have to die to save my mother i will do it……..

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amen-ra
In reply to the above comment on October 7th, 2008 3:21 pm:
how you know the man have the money to travel, you think london is a bed of roses that he can get money just like that and return, we don’t know his circumstances so just the man a break.

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Omar
In reply to the above comment on October 8th, 2008 12:49 am:
amen-ra,
I 100% agree with you on that. Most people think US, London and any other foreign countries as a matter of fact is a bed of roses. They dont understand that some people have to work as much as 4 jobs, just to make ends meet. My dad was diagnosed with cancer in December and its been hell since then. My mom works 2 jobs, i work 3 jobs just to pay all the bills and keep everything intact. Some people just dont understand. I was just looking for tickets to Guyana and 1 way is $749. These people needs to open their eyes and see what people are going through.

mr medor
In reply to the above comment on October 9th, 2008 5:30 am:
do you no me dont comment about things you dont no about if i am a faker what are you

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Arnold
on October 7th, 2008 9:04 am

Why this woman didn’t report to the police when the Son was in Guyana? She surely Colaborated with the other 2 Kidnapers.

He should promptly return to Guyana, and look after the well being of his Mother.

Our Mothers Love we must never forget.

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Nskeete2
on October 7th, 2008 9:16 am

Firstly, that woman should’ve reported the matter long ago to the police. Mr Medor should be here immediately to look at his mother if he’s so concerned.

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William J
on October 7th, 2008 9:18 am

Thank God the woman is alive.

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Dinstinct
on October 7th, 2008 9:24 am

im with you

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Vatican
on October 7th, 2008 9:24 am

Mr Mendor has violated one of God’s ten commandments. He will pay in accordance with the laws of karma. His days will not be long upon the land which the Lord had blessed him to live in; his own children will do him, not like-wise, but seven times worse. The laws of karma says, the sun shall rise in the east, Mr Mendor. Look out for it.

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amen-ra
In reply to the above comment on October 7th, 2008 3:25 pm:
where do you guys get off casting judgement.

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realgirl_tessa
on October 7th, 2008 9:45 am

Moving on: Those people who he trusted to look after his mother seems to be opportunist, took his money and lived large off of it. This happens too often in Guyana, whether it’s overseas based Guyanese sending their elderly family members for retirement, or children to get a good Guyanese upbrining, most of the caretakers pocket most of the money, even the clothes and other stuff they send. Guyanese use to be such good people. It’s a shame hard times have made us hardened.

Not to the editor, the whay this story is written makes it so confusing as to who did what and where it happened. Try harder for clarity next time!

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BajanGuyanese
on October 7th, 2008 11:48 am

I do think Mr. Mendor should get his priority right and come and care for his mom or get someone who is in the position to do so as quickly as possible before she dies, what medical committment can keep you away from the arms of you mom
TAKE A STOCK OF YOURSELF MY MAN .

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shyboilex
on October 7th, 2008 11:54 am

The minister of social services should bring charges against all involved.
The british high commissioner also should look into the matter. Her son who lives in London is collecting his mother financial assistance for over 40 years from the British Government and is not even using it to properly assist his mother.

Also all those involved should also know that God is not dead and life is a circle, what goes around comes around and i hope that they can handle the situation when the table turns, they have a lot to answer for in the end.

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amen-ra
In reply to the above comment on October 7th, 2008 3:28 pm:
How do you know that he have to answer, have you answered your questions already.?

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pat
on October 7th, 2008 12:12 pm

i am sure that mr mendor have no money to fly to guyana the way europe is going right now one has to save every penny for bills,shame on you

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Jay
In reply to the above comment on October 8th, 2008 5:57 am:
I agree with you Pat. Money is hard to come by these days.I mean he just left Guyana, he can’t go back just like that. What about hotel accommodaion also. You’re talking money here. We do not know the man’s circumstances. Is he himself a pensioner? Ask yourself that !! What’s his living accommdodation like.Heating bills are huge in the UK. No airline would take responsibility for such a frail individual on a 9 hour cross- atlantic flight. Plus he has surgery ahead of him. Lets pray he comes out of it able bodied.

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vwg
on October 7th, 2008 12:19 pm

i think all of them got ulterior motives- son and everybody

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Get Real
on October 7th, 2008 1:02 pm

Mr. Medor needs to cancel his surgery and go to Guyana and take care of his Mom. I cannot believe that he has not seen his Mom in 40 years. I am residing here for the past 16 years and I make sure that I go home and visit my Mom and also she visits me, I will and cannot go without seeing my Mom. I will do anything for my Mom because you only have one Mother. Ms. Medor is such a sweet woman and looks great at her age Thank God for that, all she needs is someone who will and I mean this take great care of her and treat her like their Mom, feed her properly, take her out and have her looking real good. I wish I was at home I would have loved to take care of her, because that is something I enjoy doing.

Guyanese people home do not have nursing homes to put their parents in like in North America and other parts of the world do, what we do and do best is to keep them with us until the Lord is ready for them and I think that is the best thing. I respect all my people for doing so and also we must remember that the way we treat our parents our kids treat us. I always tell my American friends that we take care of our elderly parents and they would say, why ? And I would tell them that is how we were brougt up, I would never say raise because you raise animals and you bring your kids up tp RESPECT OTHERS ALWAYS.

As I am made to understand that Ms. Medor has a piece of land in Guyand and made the person that was taking care of her power of attorney so that heartless culprit will get her land I do hope not, may be that is why her son is trying to get back in contact with her so that he can get that land and if that is his reason, I take he should be ashamed of himself. I wish Ms. Medor a speedy recovery and hopes she find a stable and care place to call home.

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radha medor
In reply to the above comment on October 8th, 2008 8:02 am:
cancel his surgey and then make himself more sick-so who will take care of Neolina then??

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tiger
on October 7th, 2008 1:22 pm

i’ve said it before, taking into account that this lad did’nt come to see his dear mother for nearly 40years and now some one else is saying that he was only interested in some property in albouystown, now makes me wonder the real reason for him to visit his mother after 40ys. maybe he thought his mother was already dead( but then again i could be wrong) but in my mind his sinserity is questionable, and i say there’s no excuse for not visiting your mother for nearly 40ys.

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Scanty
on October 7th, 2008 2:25 pm

This story got more turns then a bent up street.

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dereck lovell
on October 7th, 2008 3:20 pm

Their seems to be A lot of confusion as to who is doing the right thing for this lady , it is strange how she end up in craig village , in an unkept room something is not right here.

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Shirlene Daniels
on October 7th, 2008 6:22 pm

Simone knew the dwelling was unlivable when she agreed to take ..de $40,0000 to look after the old lady ……and the wife told such a convincing story………and the son but he can’t sleep yes is not because of your mother that is de thing called consious how could you live with yourself a mother could never be replaced…..I assume he is de only child.Don’t praise none of them not one of them had her best interest at heart. May her remaining days be filled with peace and perfect health god kept
her through this for a reason..god is good

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michael tannassee
on October 7th, 2008 7:04 pm

I knew something was not right abt the pic ,, when SN said that the old lady was found ,, and while i was trying to conceptualise how the COP and his sleuths ,, did such a fantabulous job in finding this lady ,,— when hardly there was no trace or witness to anything ,, concerning the old lady — ! i gave them the benefit of the doubt ,, and praises for a job well done ,, still a job i can’t say well done ,, but done well ,,, by acting on the info received from the lady ,, who told them where the old lady is ,,

putting the above scenario in to perspective ,, on how the COP and his boys ,, found the old lady ,, makes u wonder how ,, they were able to find the old lady so fast ,, — pity ,,her son had to go back b4 — and it took them all of what unfolded ,, b4 they were able to corner the demonic duo !

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Buxton Spice
on October 7th, 2008 7:53 pm

There is more in the mortar besides the pestle. Responsible parties……ACCEPT YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES AND CARRY THEM OUT DUTIFULLY!! This lady has been blessed with old age, let her spend the remainder of her life in love, care and respect.

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suresh_salikram
on October 7th, 2008 9:20 pm

i am sorry to hear about your unfortunate circumstances involving your mom try getting the police involved best of luck

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freespeech
on October 7th, 2008 9:55 pm

the person taking care of her was only interested in the money, that is the reason he kept her under lock and key.

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Ms. Guyana
on October 7th, 2008 10:14 pm

Everyone saying he should of went back home sooner, but people have to realize who knows what his situation was maybe he wasn’t legal and couldn’t travel or commited a crime and was in jail for a period of time not everyone who leaves their country can go back without being deported no one knows if he took care of his mother over the years and thinks went wrong lately he just said he didn’t she her in 40 years The people who knew about his mother whereabouts should be dealt with they have to remember they are getting older everyday and they will be judge on that ——-before we judge lets check ourselves to see who we remember or forgot I hope Mr. Mendor surgery goes well and GOD keep on looking out for his mother until they meet

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Owen Khan
on October 8th, 2008 6:43 am

After seeing a picture of Son and Mother in KN, I came to the conclusion, that sometimes we are too quick to pass judgement. I think that Sylverster suspected
that his mother was not being cared for properly, and although he funded her upkeep, The money was being misused. He did the right thing in paying a visit himself. In doing so he was able to establish that his suspicion was correct. Glad that he found his mom. Sometimes financial difficulties, prevents them from living together, Good luck Sylvester , she’s fortunate to have a good son. A lot of children does not help their parents, financially.Some can help physically,
some can Financially , and some dont help at all,May God let her remaining years on this earth be comfortable, and happy. God Bless Her.

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Ricardo
on October 8th, 2008 1:27 pm

After not visiting his mother for forty (40) years he is disturbed I think he is mentally disturbed to not visit his mom for so long.
If he is so disturbed the better thing to do is buy a ticket and take her back to her homeland where i am sure he could pay some relative that would take care of her better than a stranger, ….”Perhaps?”

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mr medor
In reply to the above comment on October 9th, 2008 5:25 am:
dont comment if you dont no the facts if you think i am disturbed then you should take a good look at your self and ask your self do you no me so dot judge me no the facts get it right be for you comment the people i left my mother with i had never meet them befo the said the christian church going trust worthy people so i trusted them have you ask them how much money i was sending to them they even denied i was sending any money even when the wife was arrest she denid she even got any money she said she did not no where my mother was
so please do not coment about things you dont no about you people think the uk street are paved with gold if you think so please come and pick it and give me some of it
mr.sylvester medor

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Ricardo
In reply to the above comment on October 10th, 2008 12:57 pm:
Guess you are saying whatever to console yourself but you should remember your words taht you have not seen your mom for forty (40) years. I have never been to London but one thing I know for sure taht my uncle has been residing there for the past forty eight (48) years and every year or two (2) he visited his mother, my grandmother until her demise also sending Cash every month to make her comfortable. So as i said your excuse is lame and its the same ole same ole from me “Shame on you, whatever else you say would just sink you deeper in the pit you are digging”
berry
on October 8th, 2008 4:31 pm

if that was my mother , by the hooks or the crooks i would have returned to guyana to see HER.. THIS IS THE LOVE. I LOVE MY MOM SO MUCH IT MAKES ME CALL HER EVERY DAY JUST TO SAY HI, AND MY SON DOES THE SAME WITH ME. THIS IS LOVE.AND COMMITTMENT. DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU. A THOUGHT FOR MR MEDOR.

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mr medor
In reply to the above comment on October 9th, 2008 5:09 am:
dont comment if you dont no the facts did you no i was in guyana last november
you should coment about the people i left her with i was sending them 40.0000 dollars a month then they were axking me for more so i refuse to send any more
they do you no why i have not spoke to my mother for so long ask your self that question so dont comment about things you dont no about i trusted these so call christian people they trying to discreidt me abouting wanting my mother property the property dose not belong to my mother so dont comment about
things you dont no about
mr sylvester medor

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berry
In reply to the above comment on October 9th, 2008 3:49 pm:
whatever you say mr. medor after all you are the person that your mother calls her son and i understand she is suppose to your mom??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
mr medor
on October 9th, 2008 4:46 am

i am the son of ms medor this is for all you people in guyana that do not know the facts about my mother and my self some of your comments stinks if you all think i came to guyana for what she has you all are making a big mistake money or property cant by love i have always loved my mother but please get your facts right before you people start judgeing me some of you think that the streets of the uk is covered in gold then let me see some of you come and pick it up and give it to me what you dont no you dont no once again get your facts right
mr sylvester medor

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Who knows?
on October 13th, 2008 3:56 pm

You all are too quick to judge. God said Jugde not less you be judged. You do now know the whole story. He may not even have the money to travel home again so quickly. You do not know the illness he has. Stop your harsh judgements without knowing the inside of the story. Yes, it is sad that this woman was mistreated, no one is justifying that but before you judge Mr. Medor, you should make sure you have all the facts straight.

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