For as long as I could remember, I was always uncomfortable with my frizzy, curly hair. I remember rarely seeing models in the magazines with hair like mine when I was a little girl and I was too often made to feel that my hair was inappropriate for day-to-day looks.
From the media and influences I was surrounded by, I felt I had to constantly work to fit into world’s concept of beauty. This made me feel as if my curls were inferior and almost never good for any occasion. I combed my hair neatly, sometimes plastering it with too much gel to curb its ‘unruly’ look. I always wanted to fit in as a child. You see, I was raised in a time that was stereotypical and judgemental where hair was concerned. A time in which people, particularly young people, were afraid to embrace their blackness and cultural identity. It was a time too when society did not teach us to embrace our blackness; conversations about slavery and oppression were difficult ones to have – they still are.
I was too young and naïve to realize the potential damage I was inflicting upon myself not only from a physical perspective but mentally as well. I grew frustrated with myself. The only time I felt beautiful was when my hair was silky smooth. It didn’t matter if the straight hair didn’t suit my outfit styling, I wore it because it made people comfortable.
This is what delving into and worshipping fashion magazines can do for young girls who haven’t been properly guided. It can leave vulnerable young women feeling like they have no place as very often they
