I am one of those people who believe that once two people are adults and are drawn to each other, they have every right to be together. I did not always feel that way. There was a time when I frowned on relationships where there were huge age gaps. I thought it was bizarre that men and women could be in their forties, fifties and older and find interest in people much younger. But as you mature your views change and my evolution has brought me to a place of understanding that there are no boundaries where love and attraction are concerned – no age, race or class.
Me scoffing at the idea of older folks with younger folks was of course influenced by what society teaches you. We are placed into categories according to age, race, class and sexuality; and if we go outside those classifications set for us, we are often subjected to judgment. Many take the stance that the old should not intermingle with the young where relationships are concerned for various reasons. The idea of the old preying on the young is often voiced. But let’s face it, some of the best relationships occur between older and younger people. There are women who would have had relationships with men within their age group who kept disappointing them – whether that disappointment came in the form of infidelity or not stepping up to the demands of the relationship. Some of those women claim that the older man is more respectful and settled, while younger men may be in the process of establishing themselves. Of course there are exceptions to those facts in both groups of men.
