When I was growing up, experience and personal growth were never the factors people considered before having children. Age was so much the centre of discussions that it seemed all raising children required was lots of energy and it was a type of energy only young mothers possess. It was usually said in a way that made you feel guilty for delaying the process or not prioritizing it.
I think a lot about the type of mother I would be, if I decided to have children. I wrestle a lot with convincing myself that I will not repeat learned patterns, then spend hours thinking of all sorts of hypothetical situations that may arise and how I would parent.
