(Part 2 cont’d)
We continue from last week, looking at children’s stages of development, as a way of understanding their behaviour to help in avoiding confrontations that result in the need for punishment. Here are some more of the behaviours that children exhibit at different ages and suggested responses. You can also read about child development to help you better understand why children behave the way they do.
Behaviour at 14 – 16 years
In middle adolescence there is increasing independence, sexual development, and self-centredness. Children at this age become very body or appearance conscious. Their thinking is less childlike and they consider facts and can make good decisions.
Response
Encourage positive relationships through sharing. Give children ideas of creative things to do with their friends as part of learning. Set reasonable limits and be consistent and fair in enforcing rules. Make sure they know the rules and involve them in setting consequences for their actions. Give praise and recognize positive behaviour and accomplishments. Share your own beliefs, concerns, and values about the world. Encourage your students to call a respected adult friend when they need advice. Continue to give praise.
Behaviour at 17 – 21 years
In late adolescence young adults are becoming more independent and self-reliant. They are less influenced by their friends and are more able to think like adults. They are generally easier to handle than those experiencing early and middle adolescence. At this stage they are exploring more long-term relationships. They have strong opinions and have become less self conscious about their appearance.
Response
Continue with the same methods used for 14-16 year olds above. Regularly ask the young people what they think and believe. Respect their uniqueness and encourage such respect for others. Encourage independent decision-making and continue to give praise
(Adapted from UNESCO’s “Positive Discipline in the Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Classroom: Embracing Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments Specialized Booklet 1 A Guide for Teachers and Teacher Educators”).
